A few years ago I signed up on a random dating site just for the heck of it. Couple days later I'd totally forgot about it. I'd gone back to it over a year later and a bit more frequently. Mostly it was random 5 min chats with guys. Gotten to know their pattern so never lasted :D Until I went to UK. Started talking to a really nice guy and we talked for many days until we ended up meeting while I visited London. We're still in touch and all...
In the past year I took up trying out some of the dating apps I can get on my phone (Lumia) or iPad. Lumia doesn't have anything good so deleted them all. The only one I'm okay with is OkCupid. The longest I was on was Are You Interested. Here are some pointers of how to know what kind of profile to watch out:
No profile picture
I usually don't answer to anyone who doesn't have a profile picture. I kinda like to know what kind of face the recipient has... But I do check out their profile cause sometimes they do have pics of themselves. Don't be shy to check out their profile. You can get a lot out of them, or even nothing...
So this just happened today. Since I'm sick and at home all week, I started going on the app a bit more. Talked with a guy a few hours before gave my Kik id. Then we exchanged our pics and the dude wasn't the same as on the site!! Instant bye-bye!! :''D
So this just happened today. Since I'm sick and at home all week, I started going on the app a bit more. Talked with a guy a few hours before gave my Kik id. Then we exchanged our pics and the dude wasn't the same as on the site!! Instant bye-bye!! :''D
"Out of your league"
If the profile pic, in your opinion, is of a person who's so good looking and you know that in real life he'd be totally out of your league. It's probably a fake account trying to get nude pics of you. I if I say to a profile "damn, he's totally out of my leagues" I usually just leave it at that.
If the profile pic, in your opinion, is of a person who's so good looking and you know that in real life he'd be totally out of your league. It's probably a fake account trying to get nude pics of you. I if I say to a profile "damn, he's totally out of my leagues" I usually just leave it at that.
The persistent ones
Holy crap there are so many guys out there who just don't get the hint!! Even when I say "Sorry, don't really wanna continue chatting with you". Then they'll just continue the chat like I didn't even say anything.
"Hello... You there" x 15/min
Which leads to the ones who keep sending messages even _after_ I've said that I'll be back in a few minutes! I come back to 20 "Hello's" and "Where are you!". Unlike you _I_ have a life!! (apparently).
Once i was talking with quite a nice guy, after telling him that I'm gonna go make rice, he says ok. Then I came back to over 15 "where did you go" "Don't you like me anymore" "Don't you want to talk to me anymore?" .... I was gone max. 5 minutes!! He even knew I'm gonna be away from my iPad. Should've taken a screenshot of how ridiculous it was xD
You're not obliged to continue talking to them if you don't wanna.
Guy's do get super persistent and think you have to talk to them. But you don't. If you're feeling uncomfortable with him, or the conversation is going towards a direction you don't want, just block 'em. I've had to do this more than often. Sometimes they just don't get the hint that it ain't gonna go further.
_That_ pic
Please, oh, please stop sending pics of your dick!! I'd be so happy if I never see one more dick pic in my messages. And it's most creepy when it's out of the blue OR it's right after "Hi" xD Also stop asking for nudes in less then 2 min into chatting. It ain't gonna ever happen.
Taking the chat elsewhere
I don't mind taking the chat out of the dating site (since it sometimes only gives you limited amount of chatting time etc..), but I'm not gonna give you my phone number, Skype or Facebook id. All those are private to me, so no. Kik on the other hand, i'm ok with. And that's something I recommend until you're ready to give some other id. Knowing how cool Whatsapp is, it also means you're giving away your phone number. Please reconsider that a million times before you give it. That's why I like Kik.
"Let's meet up" *Lives 3000km away*
I am all ears if you have an idea of how we gonna meet. You coming from the US?? Cause I don't have 2000€ to fly anywhere for one "date". Just saying... Anyone who says this and knows it's impossible to meet and still has high hopes... Be realistic!! Cause I definatly am.
"You're my gf now"
Wait, WHAT?!! We've literally been chatting for 5 minutes. It ain't that fast and I'm definatly not. Also, let's be realistic again.
"Hallo, howz u?"
If I see a simple "Hello" written a different way, I ain't even gonna answer back. Bad grammar kinda does annoy me. Especially if it's something simple. I know my grammar isn't the best either, but some effort does go a long way. And don't try to shorten everything. If it's "Finland" then write "Finland". If I can write the whole word, so can you.
Holy crap there are so many guys out there who just don't get the hint!! Even when I say "Sorry, don't really wanna continue chatting with you". Then they'll just continue the chat like I didn't even say anything.
"Hello... You there" x 15/min
Which leads to the ones who keep sending messages even _after_ I've said that I'll be back in a few minutes! I come back to 20 "Hello's" and "Where are you!". Unlike you _I_ have a life!! (apparently).
Once i was talking with quite a nice guy, after telling him that I'm gonna go make rice, he says ok. Then I came back to over 15 "where did you go" "Don't you like me anymore" "Don't you want to talk to me anymore?" .... I was gone max. 5 minutes!! He even knew I'm gonna be away from my iPad. Should've taken a screenshot of how ridiculous it was xD
You're not obliged to continue talking to them if you don't wanna.
Guy's do get super persistent and think you have to talk to them. But you don't. If you're feeling uncomfortable with him, or the conversation is going towards a direction you don't want, just block 'em. I've had to do this more than often. Sometimes they just don't get the hint that it ain't gonna go further.
Please, oh, please stop sending pics of your dick!! I'd be so happy if I never see one more dick pic in my messages. And it's most creepy when it's out of the blue OR it's right after "Hi" xD Also stop asking for nudes in less then 2 min into chatting. It ain't gonna ever happen.
Taking the chat elsewhere
I don't mind taking the chat out of the dating site (since it sometimes only gives you limited amount of chatting time etc..), but I'm not gonna give you my phone number, Skype or Facebook id. All those are private to me, so no. Kik on the other hand, i'm ok with. And that's something I recommend until you're ready to give some other id. Knowing how cool Whatsapp is, it also means you're giving away your phone number. Please reconsider that a million times before you give it. That's why I like Kik.
"Let's meet up" *Lives 3000km away*
I am all ears if you have an idea of how we gonna meet. You coming from the US?? Cause I don't have 2000€ to fly anywhere for one "date". Just saying... Anyone who says this and knows it's impossible to meet and still has high hopes... Be realistic!! Cause I definatly am.
"You're my gf now"
Wait, WHAT?!! We've literally been chatting for 5 minutes. It ain't that fast and I'm definatly not. Also, let's be realistic again.
"Hallo, howz u?"
If I see a simple "Hello" written a different way, I ain't even gonna answer back. Bad grammar kinda does annoy me. Especially if it's something simple. I know my grammar isn't the best either, but some effort does go a long way. And don't try to shorten everything. If it's "Finland" then write "Finland". If I can write the whole word, so can you.
On other news, I watched the fourth season of Pretty Little Liars. Even though the girls annoy me, it's still addictive.. AND HOLY CRAP, EZRA!!!!! totally shocking twist... and there were two song I liked from that season: Sail - AWOLNATION and I Am Dust - Gary Numan . Just been on repeat for the past week :D
Tomorrow I get to go back to work practice!! I was home sick, all last week. Excited~
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